Idiawrites

   I’ll be talking exclusively about self love today. I’ll be sharing pearls of wisdom based on my own experiences and books that I’ve read. Self love has been defined in so many ways and it means different things to different people and I’ll be giving my own perspective and view about it. Self love is not about posting a cute photo on your social media and giving it the #self love, it is not about splurging on expensive fashion items, it goes beyond going on vacations and heading to the spa. It’s so much deeper than all of what is usually being potrayed in social media. I’ll be sharing my own definition of what self love is towards the end of this post. I think self love has 6 core values that hold it together and it includes; Self awareness, Self Acceptance, Self worth, Self respect, Self expression and Self confidence. Everything comes together to become Self love. The journey to Self love is a marathon not a sprint, it is difficult and tough but when you decide to do the w...

            Trauma; according to the  English dictionary can be defined as an emotional wound leading to psychological injury, a second definition describes it as an event that causes great distress, both of these definitions I completely agree with. We’ve all had our share of traumas, I’ve had mine. I have experienced a few devastating events in my lifetime and I want to share what my thought process was during those difficult times and what I’ve learned. When something terrible has happened to us, we tend to self blame before anything else. We wonder and we think I must’ve done something wrong for this to happen to me. The things we tell ourselves, things that I’ve told myself in times like this include; “I wasn’t smart enough”, “I was too weak”, “I should’ve been more careful”, “I should’ve listened to my gut”, “why was I so naive”, “There must be something wrong with me”, “maybe I was unlovable and unworthy of being loved”, “It’s all my fault”. Yo...